“A key point to bear in mind…You’re better off not giving the small things more time than they deserve. -Marcus Aurelius
It seems like it’s really important to you.
But the truth is, you don’t actually care about the things themselves.
If you had to choose between just about anything and your kids’ safety, happiness, and self-image, you’d never choose that other stuff.
Yet here you are, arguing about it again.
What you’re really worried about, hence the fixation, is the deep-seated anxiety that you might be screwing them up.
Relax! Let this stuff go. Seriously, just let it go. You won’t regret it.